Want that lovin’ feeling again? We can’t turn the clock back and have the sex drive and desire that we had in our twenties. However, there are some steps that we all can take to boost our sex drive and our relationship with our partners and significant others.
Take a walk at lunch
In a study of women ages 45 to 55, sexual satisfaction correlated directly to fitness. The less exercise they got, the lower their desire and sexual satisfaction.
Read something kinky
Erotic literature can quickly jump-start arousal.
You’d be hard pressed to find someone who hasn’t heard any of the buzz surrounding the erotic novel Fifty Shades of Grey. Based on the life of a college student and her entrepreneur lover, the trilogy has been whipping the nation into a frenzy. It might just whip your sex life into a similar frenzy.
Check out these 8 picks to help you turn up the heat. Oh, and if you can’t see yourself opening up a book featuring a buxom gal being ravished by a Fabio look-a-like on the cover, that’s what e-books are for, ladies. Enjoy!
Fifty Shades Of Grey: Book One Of The Fifty Shades Trilogy, by E L James Even if S&M isn’t your thing, who isn’t curious about it? This book answers all your questions—and ones you’ve never even thought of.
A Groom Of One’s Own, by Maya Rodale Why would an upstanding duke consider jilting his duchess bride for a newspaper writer? One word: Passion. A lot of it.
Lust In The Library, by Amelia Fayer “This novella is a great introduction to erotics,” says Rodale. Plus, the tagline is hilarious: “Some like it hot. Some like it in the reference section.”
The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty, by Anne Rice, writing as A. Roquelaure The first installment of the erotic trilogy of Sleeping Beauty, this fairy tale gives you way more than Disney ever could.
Aqua Erotica, by Mary Anne Mohanraj The first erotic novel Auteri ever read, this page-turner explores sexual satisfaction beneath the waves.
Seducing Sarah (The Madame X School of Sex), by Jinx Jamison For anyone who has wanted to break free from their boring day-to-day life (and who hasn’t?), here’s your chance to live vicariously through a paralegal who enrolls in sex school—trading mundane meetings for ménage seminars.
Lady Sophie’s Lover, by Lisa Kleypas “You cannot go wrong with a Lisa Kleypas novel. She has a gift for beautiful, passionate writing—especially the love scenes,” says Rodale.
The Dom of My Dreams: A BDSM Novel, by M.F. Sinclair They say never mix business with pleasure, but when a publicist takes on a hot new writer, all the rules go out the window.
Flex your muscles
Flexing your pelvic floor muscles—the ones that stop the flow of urine—instantly increases desire and sexual sensation because you’re mimicking the contractions of orgasm. For more information on Kegel exercises, go to: http://neilbaum.com/articles/pelvic-exercises-for-women-kegel-exercises
Have a massage
The skin-on-skin contact stimulates the sex hormone oxytocin. The more oxytocin released, the more desire a woman will feel.
Slip into something sexy
Putting on a pair of black stilettos or a sheer cami invigorates you sexually because it makes you feel more daring. It stokes your sexual imagination so you can play a role, like a good girl letting her sexy side out.”
Steal his Viagra
Ask your doctor about taking one of those little blue pills. You may be ready to go in an hour. Viagra increases blood flow to the genital area—something women need for arousal just as much as men do. Though the FDA hasn’t approved the pill for women, doctors can prescribe it.
Take a shower—together
Being clean makes you feel sexier and more open to receiving oral sex. And you’re also more likely to want to reciprocate with a clean partner as well.
Vibrate your pelvis
Vibrators bring the circulatory system into play right away and can greatly speed up your arousal time. Don’t worry that pleasuring yourself will turn off your desire for your partner.
Use a lubricant
Sexual intimacy feels better with lubrication. I recommend a water soluble lubricant such as K-Y jelly instead of an oil based lubricant such as Vasoline.
Bottom Line: Sex drive in the tank? Use a few of these ideas to revive your libido. You and your partner will be glad you did.