Archive for the ‘attitude’ Category

Are You Inspired by Failure?

December 11, 2011

Another wonderful article by my colleague Dr. Neil Neimark

“Failure inspires winners. And failure defeats losers.”
Robert T. Kiyosaki, author of Rich Dad, Poor Dad

The above quote makes us realize that in order to be happy in life, we must make a vital distinction between “success and failure” and “winners and losers.”

Being a winner or a loser is not really determined by success or failure at any particular event in life; it is rather a state of mind that is affected by — but not determined by — our successes or failures in life.

If we are inspired by our “failures” to try harder, learn new distinctions and reinforce our efforts, we are a winner.

If we are defeated by our failures, we are a loser.

So being a winner or a loser is a state of mind. Success and failure only provide feedback as to how we are doing.

We may not always win (succeed) in life, but we can always choose to be a winner.

This is the power of mindset.

Life may not always bring us peace and happiness, but we can always choose to be peaceful or happy. It is a choice. In fact, it is a key to lifelong happiness, fulfillment and peace of mind.

Whether the external world grants us our goals and desires or not, a winner is one who always finds and/or creates greater goodness, love, fulfillment, happiness, contribution and peace in life.

In other words, choosing to be a winner, i.e. to have the mindset of a winner, is choosing to make happiness a habit.

If we learn to be happy inside no matter what is happening outside, we have a lifelong treasure that can enrich and empower us.

Does this mean we will never feel despair, hurt, frustration or disappointment?

Of course not, these feelings are a real part of life and honestly acknowledging them is essential to true and lasting happiness. But what we choose to do with these feelings determines whether we will be a winner or a loser in life.

In his book Happiness is a Serious Issue, Dennis Prager teaches that “though things do not always turn out for the best, you can always make the best of how things turn out.”

It is this attitude, this belief, this value that will bring you the mindset of a true winner in life.

An Attitude of Gratitude

August 7, 2011

This was written by Dr. Neil Neimark, M.D. He’s spot on living a meaningful, giving life. I know that after you read this it will make you feel better.

Gratitude is one of those rare forces in life that increases as you give it away.

As you practice gratitude, your happiness increases.

And as Dennis Prager, author of Happiness Is A Serious Issue, states, “Happy people make the world a better place.” For that reason, happiness is a moral issue.

In addition to its moral implications, much scientific evidence exists that happiness creates a healing environment for body, mind and soul.

Whether being happy comes naturally for you or represents a stretch, the quickest way I know of to increase your happiness quotient is by practicing gratitude on a daily basis.

As my way of saying “thank you” for subscribing to The Body/Soul Connection Newsletter, I would like to offer you a special report I wrote on how to start a gratitude journal.

This report normally sells for $4, but it is free to you as my way of paying it forward! I hope you enjoy it and that this short but powerful report will help change your life for the better.

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Till next time, be well and enjoy the healing power of gratitude in your life.

In body and soul,

Neil F. Neimark, M.D.

Advice From a Landscaper-John Florios

July 17, 2011

I received this blog from Dr. Neil Neimark (How can I pass up a blog from a man named Neil?) and I would like to share it with you.

What Is Your Passion?

Developing a passion for doing good in the world is one of the keys to living a vital and healthy life.

But just how do we go about doing that? And just what does it mean to be passionate?

To answer this question, let’s look at the meaning of the word, “passion.” The Latin root for the word “passion” means “to suffer.”

In this sense, true passion means that in pursuing our own fullness of expression, we may suffer (by experiencing failure, rejection, loss or pain).

But, really, who among us wants to suffer?

No one really, but the key is this: It is only in our willingness to suffer (struggle) in pursuit of our values and dreams, that we unlock the hidden strength and vitality that helps us find meaning and fulfillment beyond our suffering.

Let me illustrate for you the healing power of living passionately with an inspiring story told by Bernie Siegel M.D., in his book Peace, Love & Healing.

It was late February when a patient named John Florios was referred to Dr. Siegel for a rapidly spreading stomach cancer. Dr. Siegel advised John to have surgery immediately. John looked at Dr. Siegel and said, “You’re forgetting something.” “What did I forget?” asked Dr. Siegel. “It’s springtime,” said John, “and I’m a landscape gardener and I want to make the world beautiful. I’ll come back later for the surgery. That way if I survive it’s a gift. If not, I will have left a beautiful world.”

With that comment, the patient left the office, not to be heard from again, until about a month later, when he returned to Dr. Siegel’s’ office saying “The world is beautiful now. I’m ready.” Surgery was performed and the first night after the operation, John looked great with no pain or discomfort, however the pathology report revealed significant cancer had spread to the lymph nodes and to the margin of resection. Dr. Siegel advised John to have chemotherapy and radiation. Once again, John replied, “You forgot something.” “What did I forget this time?” asked Dr. Siegel. “It’s still spring. I don’t have time for all that.” The patient was at peace with his decision to have no further treatment. He recovered rapidly from the surgery and left the hospital ahead of schedule.

Two weeks later, John returned to the office complaining of stomach pain, but it turned out to be a virus. Four years later, as Dr. Siegel was pulling a chart from a patient’s room, he found the name “John Florios” on it. “You must have the wrong chart,” he said to his nurse. “No that’s the right one,” she replied. “Then there must be two John Florios,” puzzled Dr. Siegel, quite certain that, based on the pathology report, the “other” John was long gone.

When Dr. Siegel walked in the room he couldn’t believe his eyes. “Why are you here?” he asked. John said, “I’d like to know what I can eat after a stomach operation.” “Four years after! Anything!” said Dr. Siegel, “But why are you here?” “I got a hernia from lifting boulders in my landscape business,” retorted John. In his usual style, John refused admission to the hospital and had the hernia repaired under local in the office.

Six years after his surgery, John was 83 and doing well. We don’t know what’s happened to his cancer. It may still be there, but John is alive and well.


We cannot help but be moved by John’s determination to follow his heart and to make the world a more beautiful place, in spite of the seriousness of his disease. His refusal to be defeated by his diagnosis is a forceful illustration of how passionate living can help activate our healing system.

But please understand that the greatest healing happens when we combine the best of medical science with the best of the human spirit. So please DON’T postpone surgery for a life threatening condition. Please DON’T refuse radiation and chemotherapy. Please DON’T avoid visiting your doctor for serious medical problems. Please DON’T ignore your doctor’s advice and recommendations.

Please DO those things that give your life meaning and purpose. Please DO those things that help make the world a more beautiful place. Please DO those things that bring you and others a deeper, richer sense of what is good and meaningful in life. Please DO follow your own inner sense of what is right and true. Please DO remember that even in the face of our own personal tragedies, we can help to make the world a more beautiful place.

Be well. In body and soul,

Neil F. Neimark, M.D.

Neil F Neimark MD Inc

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Irvine, CA