Posts Tagged ‘anorgasmia’

A Two-Minute Solution To Solving Your Lack of Orgasms

December 28, 2014

If asked the young women readers, if I could give you a pill that would reduce your loss of urine, improve the muscle and strength in your pelvis and increase your chances of reaching an orgasm, would you like a prescription? Every woman I ask about this medication always says yes they would like a prescription. Now if I told them, it wasn’t a pill but it was a simple exercise that they could do for just two minutes a day, that they could do anywhere, at almost any time, which would accomplish those above objectives many of the women would say no, not interested. How about writing for that pill?

Let me introduce you to Kegel exercises. Kegel exercises are an easy way of strengthening both your vaginal wall muscles and the muscles that control urination and bowel movements (which can also reduce the effects of urinary incontinence.

Older women and women who have had children are especially at risk of weakened pelvic floor muscles.

All you have to do is contract and release the muscles in the pelvic area, squeezing them for 5-10 seconds and then relaxing for 5 seconds each time.

The most important thing is to locate the muscles you’re trying to strengthen, and to get used to the sensation of exercising them. The best way of doing this is to try to stop your urine mid-flow when you go to the restroom. If you do this successfully then you’ve found the muscles you’re looking for.

I suggest that you repeat the cycle of contracting and relaxing ten times per session, and try to fit in three sessions per day which should take you just two minutes. This shouldn’t be difficult as, going to the gym, using weights, doing push-ups or lunges. Honestly, these exercises can be done anywhere, at anytime, without anyone even realizing you’re doing them.

If done properly, you should notice a difference (enhanced sensation during sex and less leakage) in 4-6 weeks.

According to sex experts, it’s not just women who can benefit from Kegel exercises: “Pelvic floor exercises can also benefit men with problems such as erectile dysfunction (difficulty getting or keeping an erection), premature ejaculation, or difficulty with urination.

Bottom Line: A Kegel a day may just keep the doctor away and put a little zing in your sex life. Try it for a few weeks and if you aren’t completely satisfied, I’ll refund your money! ☺

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New Agent for Female Sexual Dysfunction Has Promise

May 2, 2014

Female sexual dysfunction, decreased sex drive, decreased vaginal lubrication, and lack of orgasm, is more common than male sexual dysfunction or erectile dysfunction. Unfortunately, until recently no treatment has been found to be effective for female sexual dysfunction.

A new drug, bremelanotide, appeared to reduce distress and increase satisfaction among premenopausal women with female sexual dysfunction, researchers reported here.

In a study that specifically looked at decreased sexual desire reported that treatment with bremelanotide resulted in women boosting the number of satisfactory sexual events in a month.

Patients taking bremelanotide reported more nausea, flushing, and headaches than those on placebo. About 10% of the woman using bremelanotide withdrew from the study because of adverse events, but the drug was generally well tolerated.

Bremelanotide is now awaiting approval from the FDA.

Bottom Line: Female sexual dysfunction affects millions of women. Until now little could be done to help women regain their desire for intimacy. The FDA is now looking into the use of bremelanotide as a solution for this common problem.

When Sex Is Not Enjoyable For Women-No Orgasm

December 17, 2013

Anorgasmia is the medical term for regular difficulty reaching orgasm after ample sexual stimulation, causing you personal distress. Anorgasmia is actually a common occurrence, affecting more women than you might think.
Orgasms vary in intensity, and women vary in the frequency of their orgasms and the amount of stimulation necessary to trigger an orgasm. In fact, fewer than a third of women consistently have orgasms with sexual activity. Plus, orgasms often change with age, medical issues or with the use of certain medications.
If you’re happy with the climax of your sexual activities, there’s no need for concern. However, if you’re bothered by lack of orgasm or the intensity of your orgasms, talk to your doctor about anorgasmia. Lifestyle changes and sex therapy may help.
An orgasm is a feeling of intense physical pleasure and release of tension, accompanied by involuntary, rhythmic contractions of your pelvic floor muscles. But it doesn’t always look — or sound — like that famous scene from “When Harry Met Sally.” Some women actually feel pelvic contractions or a quivering of the uterus during orgasm, but many women don’t. Some women describe fireworks all over the body, while others describe the feeling as a warm tingle.
By definition, the major symptoms of anorgasmia are inability to experience orgasm or long delays in reaching orgasm. But there are different types of anorgasmia:
• Primary anorgasmia. This means you’ve never experienced an orgasm.
• Secondary anorgasmia. This means you used to have orgasms, but now experience difficulty reaching climax.
• Situational anorgasmia. This means you are able to orgasm only during certain circumstances, such as during oral sex or masturbation. This is very common in women. In fact, most women experience orgasm only from stimulation of the clitoris.
• General anorgasmia. This means you aren’t able to orgasm in any situation or with any partner.
Despite what you see in the movies, orgasm is no simple, sure thing. This pleasurable peak is actually a complex reaction to many physical, emotional and psychological factors. If you’re experiencing trouble in any of these areas, it can affect your ability to orgasm.
A wide range of illnesses, physical changes and medications can interfere with orgasm:
• Medical diseases. Any illness can affect this part of the human sexual response cycle, including diabetes and neurological diseases, such as multiple sclerosis.
• Gynecologic issues. Orgasm may be affected by gynecologic surgeries, such as hysterectomy or cancer surgeries. In addition, lack of orgasm often goes hand in hand with other sexual concerns, such as uncomfortable or painful intercourse.
• Medications. Many prescription and over-the-counter medications can interfere with orgasm, including blood pressure medications, antihistamines and antidepressants — particularly selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs).
• Alcohol and drugs. Too much alcohol can cramp your ability to climax; the same is true of street drugs.
• The aging process. As you age, normal changes in your anatomy, hormones, neurological system and circulatory system can affect your sexuality. A tapering of estrogen levels during the transition to menopause can decrease sensations in the clitoris, nipples and skin; blood flow to the vagina and clitoris also may be impeded, which can delay or stop orgasm entirely.
Many psychological factors play a role in your ability to orgasm, including:
• Mental health problems, such as anxiety or depression
• Performance anxiety
• Stress and financial pressures
• Cultural and religious beliefs
• Fear of pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases
• Embarrassment
• Guilt about enjoying sexual experiences
Many couples who are experiencing problems outside of the bedroom will also experience problems in the bedroom. These overarching issues may include:
• Lack of connection with your partner
• Unresolved conflicts or fights
• Poor communication of sexual needs and preferences
Infidelity or breach of trust
A medical evaluation for anorgasmia usually consists of:
• A thorough medical history. Your doctor may also inquire about your sexual history, surgical history and current relationship. Don’t let embarrassment stop you from giving candid answers. These questions provide clues to the cause of your problem.
Physical examination. Your doctor will probably conduct a general physical exam to look for physical causes of anorgasmia, such as an underlying medical condition. Your doctor may also examine your genital area to see if there’s some obvious physical or anatomical reason for lack of orgasm.

It can be difficult to treat anorgasmia. Your treatment plan will depend on the underlying cause of your symptoms, but your doctor may recommend a combination of lifestyle changes, therapy and medication.

For most women, a key part of treatment includes addressing relationship issues and everyday stressors. Understanding your body and trying different types of sexual stimulation also can help.
• Understand your body better. Understanding your own anatomy and how you like to be touched can lead to better sexual satisfaction. If you need a refresher course on your genital anatomy, ask your doctor for a diagram or get out a mirror and look. Then take some time to explore your own body. Masturbating or using a vibrator can help you discover what type of touching feels best to you, and then you can share that information with your partner. If you’re uncomfortable with self-exploration, try exploring your body with your partner.
• Increase sexual stimulation. Many women who’ve never had an orgasm aren’t getting enough effective sexual stimulation. Most women need direct or indirect stimulation of the clitoris in order to orgasm, but not all women realize this. Switching sexual positions can produce more clitoral stimulation during intercourse; some positions also allow for you or your partner to gently touch your clitoris during sex. Using a vibrator during sex also can help trigger an orgasm.
• Seek couples counseling. Conflicts and disagreements in your relationship can affect your ability to orgasm. A counselor can help you work through disagreements and tensions and get your sex life back on track.
• Try sex therapy. Sex therapists are therapists who specialize in treating sexual concerns. You may be embarrassed or nervous about seeing a sex therapist, but sex therapists can be very helpful in treating anorgasmia. Therapy often includes sex education, help with communication skills, and behavioral exercises that you and your partner try at home. 
For example, you and your partner may be asked to practice “sensate focus” exercises, a specific set of body-touching exercises that teach you how to touch and pleasure your partner without focusing on orgasm. Or you and your partner may learn how to combine a situation in which you reach orgasm — such as clitoral stimulation — with a situation in which you desire to reach orgasm, such as intercourse. By using these techniques and others, you may learn to view orgasm as one pleasurable part of sexual intimacy, not the whole goal of every sexual encounter.
Hormone therapies aren’t a guaranteed fix for anorgasmia. But they can help. So can treating underlying medical conditions.
• Treating underlying conditions. If a medical condition is hindering your ability to orgasm, treating the underlying cause may resolve your problem. Changing or modifying medications known to inhibit orgasm also may eliminate your symptoms.
• Estrogen therapy. Systemic estrogen therapy — by pill, patch or gel — can have a positive effect on brain function and mood factors that affect sexual response. Local estrogen therapy — in the form of a vaginal cream or a slow-releasing suppository or ring that you place in your vagina — can increase blood flow to the vagina and help improve desire. In some cases, your doctor may prescribe a combination of estrogen and progesterone.
Testosterone therapy. Male hormones, such as testosterone, play an important role in female sexual function, even though testosterone occurs in much lower amounts in a woman. As a result, testosterone may help increase orgasm, especially if estrogen and progesterone aren’t helping. However, replacing testosterone in women is controversial and it’s not approved by the Food and Drug Administration for sexual dysfunction in women. Plus, it can cause negative side effects, including acne, excess body hair (hirsutism), and mood or personality changes. Testosterone seems most effective for women with low testosterone levels as a result of surgical removal of the ovaries (oophorectomy). If you choose to use this therapy, your doctor will closely monitor your symptoms to make sure you’re not experiencing negative side effects.
Natural products are available that may help some women who have difficulty reaching orgasm. These oils and supplements work by increasing sensation in the clitoris and surrounding tissue.
The following products may benefit some women with anorgasmia:
• Zestra. This botanical massage oil helps warm the clitoris and may increase sexual arousal and orgasm.
• ArginMax. This oral nutritional supplement contains L-arginine, a substance that relaxes blood vessels and increases blood flow to the genital area, and the clitoris in particular.

Bottom Line: Anorgasmia is a common problem that affects millions of women. If you are not receiving the enjoyment from sexual intimacy, speak to your doctor as there may be a medical problem that can be treated. Both you and your partner will appreciate your doing so.

Viagra For Women -A New Drug To Help Women Achieve An Orgasm

October 30, 2012

It seems a bit unfair that men have access to medications such as Viagra, Levitra, and Cialis to treat erectile dysfunction or impotence. There are also hormones that men can take if they have low testosterone and suffer from a decreased libido. But what about women who have decreased sex desire or decreased lubrication? Now there is a treatment for women who have sexual dysfunction.

There is a the spray that can boost the sex drive of one in three women. Tefina is a testosterone gel that is sprayed up the nose. Researchers say that the testosterone is then absorbed within minutes and will become effective two hours after it is administered for up to six hours.

Researchers said the drug will be taken in the context of sexual activity, but will produce no adverse testosterone-related side effects like bad skin, body or facial hair or a deepened voice.

Researchers say that Tefina will be used as needed and that the drug will be used with the intention that it will increase the occurrence of orgasm for pre-menopausal women with sexual dysfunction or anorgasmia.

I anticipate the treatment will work like Viagra for women. Rather than a long-term, therapy-based approach, this drug can be taken when a woman anticipates sexual activity. For women with low sexual interest, testosterone therapy not only improves sexual desire and arousal, but also enhances a woman’s ability to reach orgasm.

Up to a third of women are affected by life-long problem of difficulty achieving orgasm after ample sexual stimulation, researchers say that until now the only available treatments are psychotherapy and sex therapy.
The new drug would be most helpful for patients who say that sex has become a chore rather than a pleasurable experience.

It has been shown through many documented studies that women who report poor sexual functioning have lower wellbeing, despite not being depressed. Doctors have little to offer women who are experiencing an absence of orgasms, and this could be a breakthrough study for women who currently are frustrated by the lack of any treatment option
Clinical trials are taking place in the US and Canada and researchers are currently recruiting participants between the ages of 18 and 49 who experience an absence of orgasm to take part in clinical trials in Australia.

Bottom Line: Men have treatment options for the treatment of erectile dysfunction or impotence. On the horizon is a new treatment for women with sexual problems.

New YouTube video on female sexual dysfunction-When It’s No Longer Fun “Down There”

January 12, 2011

Dr. Neil Baum, urologist Please see my video on “female sexual dysfunction” on YouTube. To see video go to:

Oh Where or Where Has My G-Spot Gone

April 13, 2010

When news of the Grafenberg Spot – or G-Spot as it is more commonly known was first released, physicians, and the public at large, were skeptical.  Could it possibly be true?  The discovery of a tiny spot within a woman’s vagina, when stimulated, produced orgasms that were significantly more intense than clitoral orgasms.  Since the discovery of the G-Spot in 1980 extensive research has proven that it does exist.

Most of today’s women, being more sexually curious than their mothers and grandmothers, have at least heard about the G-Spot and its exciting capabilities.  However, many are still wishing they had a map that would direct them to this illusive treasure.  The G-Spot is difficult to find.  It takes patience to locate the G-Spot.  Once located, however, there is an unlimited richness in sexual pleasure that may be derived from stimulating the G-Spot.   Women who have discovered it state that the feeling is quite indescribable but definitely worth the search!

How fortunate the human male is!  From his first experience, a man’s orgasm is usually achieved quite easily.  On the other hand, despite the fact that we live in a more enlightened society, there are many women who fail to experience even the mildest form of orgasmic release – some of whom have been involved with their partners for years and years.

Learning to relax and feel comfortable with one’s own body – and its many functions – including those that bring us intense sexual pleasure – is definitely a perquisite to achieving the G-Spot orgasm.  A woman must be willing to explore her body, or allow her partner to explore it with her – telling him as he goes what does or does not feel good to her.

Because of the location of the G-Spot within the vagina, it is often difficult to reach.  The G-Spot is located in the front part of the body:  it is usually found on the upper front wall of the vagina.   For initial exploration purposes – at least until a woman becomes comfortable with the location of her G-Spot-it may be more beneficial for the woman to manually search while she sits on the toilet.

Before you start, wash your hands thoroughly and cut and smooth the fingernail of the finger you will use to explore.  This is to ensure that you won’t accidentally scratch yourself.  Empty your bladder, and focus on all the sensations in your pelvic region as you do so.

If necessary, lubricate your middle finger with a glycerine-based (water soluble) lubricant, such as K-Y jelly.  Explore the upper front wall of the vagina, exerting firm pressure in the direction of the navel.  Don’t be afraid of pressing down on the tissue as the G-Spot is a bit beneath the surface of the vaginal wall.

What you should be feeling is slight to moderate pleasure … you will feel a special kind of sensitivity when you press on the G-Spot.  Once you’ve located the G-Spot, continue stimulating the area, keeping in mind that considerable pressure will be needed to get good sensations.  You may experience twinges or contractions of the uterus while stroking the G-Spot … this is normal as the uterus is an enlargement of this sensitive area.  The spot may begin to swell … causing the tissue to become smooth.  The Grafenberg Spot will become quite obvious, feeling much like a lima bean or an almond beneath the surface of the vaginal wall.

Most women do not reach orgasm the first time they engage in sex play – whether the sexual act is masturbatory or intercourse with their partner.  While the acts themselves many feel very good, they are not usually sufficient – the first time around – to bring the woman to orgasm and climax.  She must first learn to relax deeply enough to fully experience all the sensations and pleasures she is feeling!  In short, she must train her mind to accept what her body is experiencing as a natural, normal – and totally acceptable – part of her life!

Some women have reported that the G-spot orgasm did not seem to be any different from the clitoral orgasms they’d already experienced.  The feelings and sensations associated with the G-Spot are very different from those experienced during clitoral orgasm  Because it is highly likely that the clitoris will, in some way, be stimulated during your exploration for the G-Spot, you may wish to have a clitoral orgasm first before proceeding!  This will ensure that stimulation of the G-Spot will result in a G-Spot orgasm!