Posts Tagged ‘orgasm’

“Oh, my aching balls!” -Blue Balls

November 26, 2016

“Oh, my aching balls!” A comment that every young man makes or thinks when he is engaged in heavy sexual activity and his testicles are causing aggravating pain and discomfort. This blog will describe the condition and what can be done to relieve the discomfort.

‘Blue balls’ is the popular slang term for vasocongestion in the testicles. The testicles do not actually turn blue. Instead, a bluish tint appears on the skin of the scrotum because of the increase in blood supply to the area that is trapped there by constriction of the venous blood vessels giving the bluish discoloration. However, this may not happen in all young men.

Cause and Symptoms
When a sexually-matured male is aroused, the following happens:
• His parasympathetic nervous system increases its inputs, causing an increased flow of blood and lymphatic fluids to the genital area.
• Concurrently, muscles that control fluid outflow constrict, resulting in a net increase of fluid concentration.
• These actions combine to ensure that regional blood pressure is high enough to sustain an erection for penetration during sexual intercourse.
• During this process, the testicles also increase in size by about 25 – 50 percent.
When the male reaches orgasm and ejaculates, the constricted muscles relax and the additional fluids flow out from the genital area. The penis and testicles then return to their normal size.
However, when there is prolonged sexual arousal without eventual ejaculation, the bodily fluids will pool, causing congestion in the testicles and the prostate region. The blood becomes oxygen-deprived and turns bluish, giving the condition its slang term, blue balls.
The technical term for this condition is vasocongestion, which is often accompanied by a cramp-like ache at the lower abdomen, pain and tenderness of the testes, and a lingering sensation of heaviness and discomfort in the lower body.
The female homologue is usually referred to by the more general term ‘pelvic congestion’ or ‘pink ovaries’.

Vasocongestion does not cause any short- or long-term physical harm to the person, and neither is it contagious or infectious. Although it can be very uncomfortable, it is definitely not life-threatening or an emergency. Even if nothing is done, the symptoms usually subside within an hour of onset.
If one is eager for a quick relief, the easiest way is through ejaculation, i.e., masturbation or enough genital stimulation that results in an orgasm and ejaculation. That will jump-start the parasympathetic nervous system, decreasing the blood flow through the genital area and dissipating the build-up of fluids.

Bottom Line: Blue balls is not a serious condition. However, if the symptoms last for several hours or days after sexual arousal has ceased, then do consult a health care professional to be certain that there is not an underlying cause(s) of the pain and discomfort.

When Sex Is Not Enjoyable For Women-No Orgasm

December 17, 2013

Anorgasmia is the medical term for regular difficulty reaching orgasm after ample sexual stimulation, causing you personal distress. Anorgasmia is actually a common occurrence, affecting more women than you might think.
Orgasms vary in intensity, and women vary in the frequency of their orgasms and the amount of stimulation necessary to trigger an orgasm. In fact, fewer than a third of women consistently have orgasms with sexual activity. Plus, orgasms often change with age, medical issues or with the use of certain medications.
If you’re happy with the climax of your sexual activities, there’s no need for concern. However, if you’re bothered by lack of orgasm or the intensity of your orgasms, talk to your doctor about anorgasmia. Lifestyle changes and sex therapy may help.
An orgasm is a feeling of intense physical pleasure and release of tension, accompanied by involuntary, rhythmic contractions of your pelvic floor muscles. But it doesn’t always look — or sound — like that famous scene from “When Harry Met Sally.” Some women actually feel pelvic contractions or a quivering of the uterus during orgasm, but many women don’t. Some women describe fireworks all over the body, while others describe the feeling as a warm tingle.
By definition, the major symptoms of anorgasmia are inability to experience orgasm or long delays in reaching orgasm. But there are different types of anorgasmia:
• Primary anorgasmia. This means you’ve never experienced an orgasm.
• Secondary anorgasmia. This means you used to have orgasms, but now experience difficulty reaching climax.
• Situational anorgasmia. This means you are able to orgasm only during certain circumstances, such as during oral sex or masturbation. This is very common in women. In fact, most women experience orgasm only from stimulation of the clitoris.
• General anorgasmia. This means you aren’t able to orgasm in any situation or with any partner.
Despite what you see in the movies, orgasm is no simple, sure thing. This pleasurable peak is actually a complex reaction to many physical, emotional and psychological factors. If you’re experiencing trouble in any of these areas, it can affect your ability to orgasm.
A wide range of illnesses, physical changes and medications can interfere with orgasm:
• Medical diseases. Any illness can affect this part of the human sexual response cycle, including diabetes and neurological diseases, such as multiple sclerosis.
• Gynecologic issues. Orgasm may be affected by gynecologic surgeries, such as hysterectomy or cancer surgeries. In addition, lack of orgasm often goes hand in hand with other sexual concerns, such as uncomfortable or painful intercourse.
• Medications. Many prescription and over-the-counter medications can interfere with orgasm, including blood pressure medications, antihistamines and antidepressants — particularly selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs).
• Alcohol and drugs. Too much alcohol can cramp your ability to climax; the same is true of street drugs.
• The aging process. As you age, normal changes in your anatomy, hormones, neurological system and circulatory system can affect your sexuality. A tapering of estrogen levels during the transition to menopause can decrease sensations in the clitoris, nipples and skin; blood flow to the vagina and clitoris also may be impeded, which can delay or stop orgasm entirely.
Many psychological factors play a role in your ability to orgasm, including:
• Mental health problems, such as anxiety or depression
• Performance anxiety
• Stress and financial pressures
• Cultural and religious beliefs
• Fear of pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases
• Embarrassment
• Guilt about enjoying sexual experiences
Many couples who are experiencing problems outside of the bedroom will also experience problems in the bedroom. These overarching issues may include:
• Lack of connection with your partner
• Unresolved conflicts or fights
• Poor communication of sexual needs and preferences
Infidelity or breach of trust
A medical evaluation for anorgasmia usually consists of:
• A thorough medical history. Your doctor may also inquire about your sexual history, surgical history and current relationship. Don’t let embarrassment stop you from giving candid answers. These questions provide clues to the cause of your problem.
Physical examination. Your doctor will probably conduct a general physical exam to look for physical causes of anorgasmia, such as an underlying medical condition. Your doctor may also examine your genital area to see if there’s some obvious physical or anatomical reason for lack of orgasm.

It can be difficult to treat anorgasmia. Your treatment plan will depend on the underlying cause of your symptoms, but your doctor may recommend a combination of lifestyle changes, therapy and medication.

For most women, a key part of treatment includes addressing relationship issues and everyday stressors. Understanding your body and trying different types of sexual stimulation also can help.
• Understand your body better. Understanding your own anatomy and how you like to be touched can lead to better sexual satisfaction. If you need a refresher course on your genital anatomy, ask your doctor for a diagram or get out a mirror and look. Then take some time to explore your own body. Masturbating or using a vibrator can help you discover what type of touching feels best to you, and then you can share that information with your partner. If you’re uncomfortable with self-exploration, try exploring your body with your partner.
• Increase sexual stimulation. Many women who’ve never had an orgasm aren’t getting enough effective sexual stimulation. Most women need direct or indirect stimulation of the clitoris in order to orgasm, but not all women realize this. Switching sexual positions can produce more clitoral stimulation during intercourse; some positions also allow for you or your partner to gently touch your clitoris during sex. Using a vibrator during sex also can help trigger an orgasm.
• Seek couples counseling. Conflicts and disagreements in your relationship can affect your ability to orgasm. A counselor can help you work through disagreements and tensions and get your sex life back on track.
• Try sex therapy. Sex therapists are therapists who specialize in treating sexual concerns. You may be embarrassed or nervous about seeing a sex therapist, but sex therapists can be very helpful in treating anorgasmia. Therapy often includes sex education, help with communication skills, and behavioral exercises that you and your partner try at home. 
For example, you and your partner may be asked to practice “sensate focus” exercises, a specific set of body-touching exercises that teach you how to touch and pleasure your partner without focusing on orgasm. Or you and your partner may learn how to combine a situation in which you reach orgasm — such as clitoral stimulation — with a situation in which you desire to reach orgasm, such as intercourse. By using these techniques and others, you may learn to view orgasm as one pleasurable part of sexual intimacy, not the whole goal of every sexual encounter.
Hormone therapies aren’t a guaranteed fix for anorgasmia. But they can help. So can treating underlying medical conditions.
• Treating underlying conditions. If a medical condition is hindering your ability to orgasm, treating the underlying cause may resolve your problem. Changing or modifying medications known to inhibit orgasm also may eliminate your symptoms.
• Estrogen therapy. Systemic estrogen therapy — by pill, patch or gel — can have a positive effect on brain function and mood factors that affect sexual response. Local estrogen therapy — in the form of a vaginal cream or a slow-releasing suppository or ring that you place in your vagina — can increase blood flow to the vagina and help improve desire. In some cases, your doctor may prescribe a combination of estrogen and progesterone.
Testosterone therapy. Male hormones, such as testosterone, play an important role in female sexual function, even though testosterone occurs in much lower amounts in a woman. As a result, testosterone may help increase orgasm, especially if estrogen and progesterone aren’t helping. However, replacing testosterone in women is controversial and it’s not approved by the Food and Drug Administration for sexual dysfunction in women. Plus, it can cause negative side effects, including acne, excess body hair (hirsutism), and mood or personality changes. Testosterone seems most effective for women with low testosterone levels as a result of surgical removal of the ovaries (oophorectomy). If you choose to use this therapy, your doctor will closely monitor your symptoms to make sure you’re not experiencing negative side effects.
Natural products are available that may help some women who have difficulty reaching orgasm. These oils and supplements work by increasing sensation in the clitoris and surrounding tissue.
The following products may benefit some women with anorgasmia:
• Zestra. This botanical massage oil helps warm the clitoris and may increase sexual arousal and orgasm.
• ArginMax. This oral nutritional supplement contains L-arginine, a substance that relaxes blood vessels and increases blood flow to the genital area, and the clitoris in particular.

Bottom Line: Anorgasmia is a common problem that affects millions of women. If you are not receiving the enjoyment from sexual intimacy, speak to your doctor as there may be a medical problem that can be treated. Both you and your partner will appreciate your doing so.

A Kegel A Day Keeps the Depends (TM) Away

June 30, 2012

Urinary incontinence is a devastating problem affecting millions of American women. For women with mild to moderate loss of urine with coughing and sneezing, Kegel exercises can M)improve urinary control and decrease the use of absorbent pads and even the use of Depends.

Kegel exercises strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which support the uterus, bladder and bowel. You can do Kegel exercises discreetly just about anytime, whether you’re driving in your car, sitting at your desk or relaxing on the couch.
Many factors can weaken your pelvic floor muscles, from pregnancy and childbirth to aging, which is associated with estrogen deficiency and being overweight. This may allow your pelvic organs to descend and bulge into your vagina — a condition known as pelvic organ prolapse. Kegel exercises can help delay or even prevent pelvic organ prolapse and the related symptoms.
Another huge benefit of Kegel exercises includes assistance for women who have persistent problems reaching orgasm. I am not sure how this works but I have heard so many anecdotal success stories that I am convinced that Kegel exercises are effective.

I have recommended a device, the Laselle by Intimina (, for women with incontinence issues.

Laselle spheres

Laselle Spheres For Kegel Exercises

There is documented evidence that has concluded that pelvic exercises should be included in first-line conservative management programs for women with urinary incontinence. The Laselle Kegel exercisers are elegantly crafted spheres with an attached string for easy insertion and removal that helps women gain objective evidence that they are doing the exercises correctly.

These weighted spheres, which if worn discreetly inside the vagina during daily activities, give women the most complete intimate workout, helping women to locate their pelvic floor muscles and providing a solid object for women to flex around for more effective strengthening. Within each sphere is a weighted ball that responds to your body’s movements, causing gentle kinetic vibrations to help prompt your pelvic floor muscles to contract and relax as you walk around.

Laselle Kegel exercisers are available in three different weights. These three different weights provide different levels of resistance and can be combined and adapted to your routine as your pelvic floor becomes stronger, helping you to unlock the full potential that this muscle set offers.

Correct performance of Kegel exercises
1. Contract your pelvic floor muscles, lift the exerciser(s) upwards
2. Hold the contraction for 2-10 seconds, while taking deep breaths
3. Release the contraction
4. Rest & relax for a minimum of your hold time, or for as long as you need before repeating the exercise
Repeat 10 times for a Kegel set, if this is challenging, reduce your repetitions to an amount that is comfortable for you.
For an efficient workout, perform a Kegel set 3 times a week on alternative weekdays
Correct Kegels do not involve tensing the abdomen, squeezing the buttocks, or straining and pushing down when contracting.

Correct Performance of Kegel Exercises

Performing Kegel Exercises Correctly

Bottom Line: Incontinence is a common problem affecting millions of American women. Kegel exercises are an effective method of solving the problem. Laselle spheres by Intimina are an easy way to get started.

Ladies, Another Reason To Work on Your Abs

April 14, 2012

It’s a fact that some women experience sexual pleasure by working out-and this can be accomplished without toys or even a partner! The secret is to workout from the core abdominal muscles. The University of Indiana discovered this phenomenon by surveying hundreds of women who reported sexual pleasure during exercise,. Most of the women reported that the sexual pleasure including orgasm occurred during an abs workout. The lead investigator, Debbie Herbenick, has coined the pleasure experience while working out the abdominal core, coregasm.

Bottom Line: There are plenty of reasons to work out and especially paying attention to your core group of muscles. You may not get a six pack but you can have a lot of fun trying!

Important Discovery-The Elusive G- Spot Has Been Found

March 24, 2012

I attended a urology\gynecology convention in Las Vegas and I saw an exhibit by Intimina. They have a number of products but the one that caught my eye was a personal massager. There are three sizes of these hand-held massagers. One is palm-sized to a medium sized and finally a larger one with a gentle curve and flat tip that is targeted to the top of the vagina which is the vicinity of elusive G-spot.

These vibrators have multiple control buttons which allow you to switch between 6 levels of vibration patterns and 16 different speeds. The power is supplied by AAA batteries.

These massagers are made of non-irritating silicone and are waterproof which can be washed after use with gentle soap and water. Each massager includes a hygienic storage pouch with a one-year warranty.

For more information on the Intimina personal massager go to their website,

Women, Want to Have An Orgasm? Start Your Exercise Engines

March 19, 2012

Most women think that sex is the only way to achieve an orgasm. An orgasm can occur with a partner or alone using self-stimulation or masturbation. Sex may not always be essential for orgasm: A new survey finds that some women can also experience the sensation while exercising. This study was published in a recent issue of the Journal Sexual and Relationship Therapy.

This type of orgasm is sometimes referred to as a “coregasm” because of its association with exercises that involve core abdominal muscles.
The most common exercises associated with exercise-induced orgasm were abdominal exercises, climbing poles or ropes, biking/spinning and weight lifting. This new study is interesting because it suggests that orgasm is not necessarily a sexual event, and we can learn from the study about the bodily processes underlying women’s experiences of orgasm.
The mechanisms behind exercise-induced orgasms and exercise-induced sexual pleasure remain unclear, but the researchers hope to learn more about the triggers for both experiences.
Bottom Line: Sex can be enjoyable activity between couples or even alone. New research indicates that sex and even orgasm can be achieved with exercise. So women if you are looking for another reason to sweat to the oldies, now you have another one!

Oh Where or Where Has My G-Spot Gone

April 13, 2010

When news of the Grafenberg Spot – or G-Spot as it is more commonly known was first released, physicians, and the public at large, were skeptical.  Could it possibly be true?  The discovery of a tiny spot within a woman’s vagina, when stimulated, produced orgasms that were significantly more intense than clitoral orgasms.  Since the discovery of the G-Spot in 1980 extensive research has proven that it does exist.

Most of today’s women, being more sexually curious than their mothers and grandmothers, have at least heard about the G-Spot and its exciting capabilities.  However, many are still wishing they had a map that would direct them to this illusive treasure.  The G-Spot is difficult to find.  It takes patience to locate the G-Spot.  Once located, however, there is an unlimited richness in sexual pleasure that may be derived from stimulating the G-Spot.   Women who have discovered it state that the feeling is quite indescribable but definitely worth the search!

How fortunate the human male is!  From his first experience, a man’s orgasm is usually achieved quite easily.  On the other hand, despite the fact that we live in a more enlightened society, there are many women who fail to experience even the mildest form of orgasmic release – some of whom have been involved with their partners for years and years.

Learning to relax and feel comfortable with one’s own body – and its many functions – including those that bring us intense sexual pleasure – is definitely a perquisite to achieving the G-Spot orgasm.  A woman must be willing to explore her body, or allow her partner to explore it with her – telling him as he goes what does or does not feel good to her.

Because of the location of the G-Spot within the vagina, it is often difficult to reach.  The G-Spot is located in the front part of the body:  it is usually found on the upper front wall of the vagina.   For initial exploration purposes – at least until a woman becomes comfortable with the location of her G-Spot-it may be more beneficial for the woman to manually search while she sits on the toilet.

Before you start, wash your hands thoroughly and cut and smooth the fingernail of the finger you will use to explore.  This is to ensure that you won’t accidentally scratch yourself.  Empty your bladder, and focus on all the sensations in your pelvic region as you do so.

If necessary, lubricate your middle finger with a glycerine-based (water soluble) lubricant, such as K-Y jelly.  Explore the upper front wall of the vagina, exerting firm pressure in the direction of the navel.  Don’t be afraid of pressing down on the tissue as the G-Spot is a bit beneath the surface of the vaginal wall.

What you should be feeling is slight to moderate pleasure … you will feel a special kind of sensitivity when you press on the G-Spot.  Once you’ve located the G-Spot, continue stimulating the area, keeping in mind that considerable pressure will be needed to get good sensations.  You may experience twinges or contractions of the uterus while stroking the G-Spot … this is normal as the uterus is an enlargement of this sensitive area.  The spot may begin to swell … causing the tissue to become smooth.  The Grafenberg Spot will become quite obvious, feeling much like a lima bean or an almond beneath the surface of the vaginal wall.

Most women do not reach orgasm the first time they engage in sex play – whether the sexual act is masturbatory or intercourse with their partner.  While the acts themselves many feel very good, they are not usually sufficient – the first time around – to bring the woman to orgasm and climax.  She must first learn to relax deeply enough to fully experience all the sensations and pleasures she is feeling!  In short, she must train her mind to accept what her body is experiencing as a natural, normal – and totally acceptable – part of her life!

Some women have reported that the G-spot orgasm did not seem to be any different from the clitoral orgasms they’d already experienced.  The feelings and sensations associated with the G-Spot are very different from those experienced during clitoral orgasm  Because it is highly likely that the clitoris will, in some way, be stimulated during your exploration for the G-Spot, you may wish to have a clitoral orgasm first before proceeding!  This will ensure that stimulation of the G-Spot will result in a G-Spot orgasm!